Here you will not only find the latest happenings with DDB, but you will also get to read about little snippets of things I find moving, important, random, or informative/helpful to others. I hope that by giving you a little insight into my life that you will have the opportunity to understand me a bit more. Thanks for stopping by!

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

I'm walking for a cure over night

Over the years I have always tried to do things for good causes. An important cause to me is finding a cure for cancer. I'd like to share my reasons with you.

When I was 19, I experienced my first loss of someone close. My best friend's mother passed away from Lung Cancer. It was devastating to experience death for the first time like that. But we've always tried to do something in memory of her.

January 18, 2006: My good friend Jessica had a lump removed from her breast on her 28th birthday. She had found it while nursing her 8 month old son. She underwent chemo and radiation, and lost her hair. Par for the course I guess. She was considered clear and free and had hair growing back by the time our engagement party happened in November of that year. While she was recovering, her 31 year old sister also noticed a tumor and started her own battle with cancer. Jessica chose the medical route for treatment, Amy chose the natural route. Jess miraculously became pregnant with her second son. While pregnant her sister Amy lost her battle with cancer in June 2007. She gave birth to her beautiful son on August 28, 2008. Jessica's hair was all grown back, she was healthy! Dealing with the loss of her sister was enough to deal with. She started having pains in her neck that kept worsening. When Gavin was 8 weeks old, Jessica's cancer had returned. This time already in her lymph nodes. I will never forget the day I took her for her brain scan. I drove her, helped her with the kids, and went home. It was a rainy day and I was off of work so I could go to a wedding down the shore. I got a call 20 minutes after being home. It was Jessica. She was crying telling me she had cancer in her brain and she was going to die. I lost it and cried with her. I told her we were going to stay positive, and not give up yet. And that's just what she did. She fought and FOUGHT HARD right to the end. She died 2 months later on December 21, 2007. Six months after her own sister's passing and one month before her 30th birthday. By the time she passed, the breast cancer had spread through her organs and down her spinal fluid. I remember spoon feeding her root beer floats because that's what she wanted even though she could barely get the words out. I remember telling her how much I loved her. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss Jessica. SHE is the reason I do what I do. She is the butterfly in my life.

So you may ask... why am I walking over night? Well I am bringing my team Friends With Angels to the Relay for Life of Montville. The theory of this event is that people with cancer live with it 24 hours a day. So by walking over night, it is symbolic that we won't sleep for a cure. What people affected by this illness go through is just incredible. Walking and raising money is the LEAST I can do to help.

If you are interested in making a donation, you can go to the following link. Any gift is a generous gift. I am forever grateful for the continued support in my life.

My team is also hosting a bowling fundraiser. We are looking for sponsors who would like to sponsor lanes! Lanes are $45 and lanes will have a sign posted recognizing each sponsor. The event is this weekend the 31st. If anyone is interested in sponsoring a lane and having their business advertised, please feel free to reach out to me asap. Thanks!


  1. What a tremendous and touching story. Life is so fragile and we cannot take anyone for granted. It sounds like you were a great friend to her.
    Take care, Susan

  2. Thanks Susan! I am a big breast cancer awareness advocate! But this walk is for all cancers. And since my husband has lost a couple of uncles and most recently an uncle who made it to our wedding, passed away 2 weeks later, we thought it would be nice to participate in something that was for all cancer.

  3. Great cause to walk for... and a very touching story.
    My father-in-law died of cancer, and it was hard for everyone.